My mom

[Bandit5906]

You won't hear of this from any news source, but today at 5:46am EST my mom passed. A long life and a short illness fulfilled the promise of life: death!

We had never been really close (or as close as I thought we should be), but as time went on most of my petty gripes about her faded and were replaced with an appreciation of her qualities. Was she doing better or was I growing up? I suspect that it was the latter!

Even though she knew there was no cure and that her time was limited her attitude was always positive. No complaining and always an attitude of "this is what lfe has dealt me and I will deal with it". All of her friends looked up to her because of that.

In the end we learned to respect each other and to value each other.

The loss is mine!

[dRaNo]

Sorry to hear about your loss, losing parents is always hard. My deepest condolences bro.

[ghost71799]

I am sorry as well to here of your loss Bandit.

Not to push god down your throat or anything, But God only gives us a little while to live here.

Ghost

[OverEasy]

Bandit its good you got closer to her before she past some do not get that chance.

My deepest condolences to you.

[cobras1]

sorry to here thats never easy just think as long as you remember her she will always be with you

[Ohms]

Hi Bandit. I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like your Mom had admirable qualities alright. Just remember, if you like yourself at all, you have to appreciate your parents. Even for all of their faults, they are the biggest reason you turned out the way you have, and from what I can see of you and how you interact on this forum, your Mom has done some things very well.

[wanabee]

sorry to hear about your mom i know how it feel i lost mine last year
My deepest condolences to you.

[old school]

Sorry for the loss of your mom. You have my condolances also.

[theclamp]

Sorry to here of your loss...god bless

[dishnewbief59E]

sorry to hear about your lost ... you have my condolances may she R.I.P

[DEEZZ_NUTTS]

sorry to here about your moms passing bandit and your right life is to short to hold any kind of grudge against anyone may it be little or big. i lost my significant other about two years ago and till this day i beat myself up over the grudges i had with her. you can always forgive or ask for fogiveness while someone is here but when a person is gone you no longer have the chance. so live love and forgive so in the end we have no regrets. bandit just hang in there its going to be tuff for a while so just be strong for yourself and your family. i send you my respect

[lefty]

My condolences sir.

[mili]

Please accept my deepest condolences.

mili

[singh60]

sorry to hear about your mom's passing...my condolences

[fubr]

hang in there Bandit, As I said on IM I hope you all are doing ok.

[mruk69]

Sorry to here about your loss Bandit, please accept my condolences.

[alsouthster]

sorry to hear that Bandit
but what you wrote here was wise...something to learn from..thanks

[rg6a]

I also lost my Mother several years ago and all those condolences from people that haven't experienced this........well they just don't know how it feels.

There really is nothing to say that will smooth things out, obviously sounds like it wasn't a relationship without its share of bumps along the road of life but you're not alone.

Hopefully you became closer with Her after learning of the terminal illness and perhaps She took the Guilt away. It's normal to have that feeling and thinking we could of done more, changed things but She always loved and forgave you.

Carry those thoughts on and continue and you'll be OK but that feeling of emptiness and loss will stay with you...and will fade away with time.

It's not easy, but time heals and make it up on your next relationship or present one, as we only get one shot at life and 'tempus fugit'.

[Bandit5906]

To all: thank you so much!

Tough times, but I will learn from all of this. Things like this give us greater understanding and not be so quick to judge or find fault.

That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

[HotRodTodd]

Sorry, for your loss Bro.
Hang in there man.

[1one]

First that i have seen the thread. Sorry to be so late in replying. My deepest condolences.

[Bandit5906]

Tomorrow is the funeral!

Thank you all!

[ptdume]

God bless your mother and you, my thoughts and prayers will be with you both tomorrow.

[Bandit5906]

At the risk of exposing myself to be human I must say that I have never before felt this alone. No matter what I was having a problem with (divorce or?) mom was always there to hear me and offer support or a kick in the butt.

Not no more!

[exHUtester]

Sorry to hear about your loss, my deepest condolences bandit

[ckirt2]

Dearest Bandit,

As you can see, I have been a member here for some time now, but don't post as much as I should. I just wanted to say that even though I haven't had the tradegy of someone passing in my immediate family, I can only imagine that there aren't any words to describe the feelings that you, your family and others feel when that happens. Even though I don't know you, you have my deepest sympathies and prayers. Death scares me so... sometimes I think it does more than others, but I have a feeling you are strong and will make it through. It's a part of life and we have to make it through because the alternatives are none. Time will help heal the wound, even though I imagine it really never goes away. Whatever good times there were in the past between you and her, only keep those in your thoughts and remember that (from what I have seen and read) that you have a lot of concerned and loving friends here from this website alone. I hope you can try to have a Merry Christmas even though it will be hard. My Father had a heart attack that almost killed him around last Christmas, so you will be in my thoughts during the holidays. Much peace, content and closure during these toughest of times.

Sincerely
Craig

[ckirt2]

PS- I know what you mean by your mother always being there. My mother and I are very close since her and my father divorced when I was 11 (and she never remarried). She is 63 now and has a plethora of health issues including high blood pressure and obesity. I confide in her for everything, even to the point of making my wife jealous. Just my opinion, she is still with you and looking out for you and you will see her again sometime in the future. For now, try to confide in other family members, good friends and don't be embarrased to seek outside support. Just my two rusty pennies tossed in. Take care.

[Bandit5906]

Thank you all for your kind words of support.

Today was the funeral and (as much as I dreaded this event), it went well and gave me tons of comfort. Until you have been through this yourself you don't know what to expect, but for me it provided a good ending/beginning.

I think at the ripe old age of 63 I may now have to give some serious thought to growing up!?! Maybe tomorrow!

[makaveli]

My deepest condolences to you , really sorry about your mom passing keep your head up brother

[knight4ever]

I am sorry to hear about your Mother. I have not been on for a few days. Sorry solate to reply.

[madmadmad]

my deepest condolences bandit, may God Bless her

[Dragster]

All mothers are special in there own way,i'm sorry bandit that your mom passed away.

[Doc]

Just happened to have stumbled upon this. I know it is very late, but I am sorry for your loss.
It is never easy to lose a parent. Been there, done that.
My deepest condolences.
Doc

[HellYeah]

We're all behind you bro.. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I almost lost my mom in a car crash 2 days ago and I'm still shaken about it.
Take care Bandit.
Hellyeah

[Bandit5906]

We're all behind you bro.. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I almost lost my mom in a car crash 2 days ago and I'm still shaken about it.
Take care Bandit.
Hellyeah

I can't begin to imagine what it must be like for you! We all know that life ends, but never know just when!